2 Reasons Disliking Your Manager Can Hurt Your Career

Last week, I heard a disturbing conversation between two employees. Their manager stepped out of the room to take a phone call. The dialog went something like this: EMPLOYEE #1: Who does she think she is giving us a motivational speech?! I’ve worked long enough, I don’t need that crap. She’s brand new and has no clue what she is talking about. Why is it every motivational speech I’ve ever heard from a manager has turned out to be coming from a clueless person? EMPLOYEE #2: (Grunt in agreement.) EMPLOYEE #1: She’s got no business giving me a pep talk…look how she’s dressed?! She needs to clean up her act before she tries to give me any advice again. EMPLOYEE #2: (Another grunt.) The conversation made me incredibly curious, especially since I had met the manager they were talking about and she appeared to be very pleasant to them. Now, before you all jump on my case in defense of the employees, I know there are two sides of every story. For all I know, she could be a complete !@#$ to them when customers aren’t around. Regardless, it was clear she had no clue these employees didn’t like or respect her. Which means EMPLOYEE #1 and #2 aren’t going to see any changes in her behavior soon. Why should YOU care? While I hope most of you realize the danger of talking negatively about your boss when customers around (i.e. What if I decided to say something?), the bigger focus should be on what you can do so you don’t feel that much resentment towards someone you work with. Here’s why:
  1. I could literally feel the anger in the words expressed which means they were experiencing an unhealthy level of stress due to frustration – not good for an employee’s health.
  2. Left unaddressed, this level of frustration usually manifests itself in passive-aggressive behavior that eventually gets recognized by the manager and can hurt an employee’s chance of advancement. Let’s face it, managers don’t promote people they know don’t like them.
What can YOU do? There are ways to manage your dislike for your manager or co-worker. In fact, over time you can even come to respect and appreciate them. If you’d like to learn more, then join me for a webinar this Wednesday called: 4 Ways to Work with Someone You Dislike In it, I’ll discuss practical ways you can get the frustration in check and even work towards building a relationship with the person who is driving you nuts! Why continue to resent those you work with? Come learn how to deal with those get on your nerves in the office. You’ll be glad you did! Sorry, this event already happened! Please go to our webinar page to review our upcoming FREE webinars. You can also receive access to our archives where the recording of this webinar is hosted. | | Photo credit: Shutterstock

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