2 Reasons Disliking Your Manager Can Hurt Your Career
Last week, I heard a disturbing conversation between two employees. Their manager stepped out of the room to take a phone call. The dialog went something like this: EMPLOYEE #1: Who does she think she is giving us a motivational speech?! I’ve worked long enough, I don’t need that crap. She’s brand new and has no clue what she is talking about. Why is it every motivational speech I’ve ever heard from a manager has turned out to be coming from a clueless person? EMPLOYEE #2: (Grunt in agreement.) EMPLOYEE #1: She’s got no business giving me a pep talk…look how she’s dressed?! She needs to clean up her act before she tries to give me any advice again. EMPLOYEE #2: (Another grunt.) The conversation made me incredibly curious, especially since I had met the manager they were talking about and she appeared to be very pleasant to them. Now, before you all jump on my case in defense of the employees, I know there are two sides of every story. For all I know, she could be a complete !@#$ to them when customers aren’t around. Regardless, it was clear she had no clue these employees didn’t like or respect her. Which means EMPLOYEE #1 and #2 aren’t going to see any changes in her behavior soon. Why should YOU care? While I hope most of you realize the danger of talking negatively about your boss when customers around (i.e. What if I decided to say something?), the bigger focus should be on what you can do so you don’t feel that much resentment towards someone you work with. Here’s why:
- I could literally feel the anger in the words expressed which means they were experiencing an unhealthy level of stress due to frustration – not good for an employee’s health.
- Left unaddressed, this level of frustration usually manifests itself in passive-aggressive behavior that eventually gets recognized by the manager and can hurt an employee’s chance of advancement. Let’s face it, managers don’t promote people they know don’t like them.