Years ago, I worked with a guy named Mark. He was talented and smart, but he had a professional flaw that kept him from getting the respect he wanted from management and his peers…
You see, Mark would attend team meetings and not say a word. He’d just sit there and stare at everyone, sometimes take a note or two, but never, I mean never, offered a suggestion or commented on an idea. When asked directly, he’d always say something safe that didn’t offend anyone. Then, he’d leave the meeting and proceed to chat with everyone that had been in the meeting about his ideas and why he did or didn’t agree with what was discussed.
One day, Mark sauntered up to my desk and started going off about the morning meeting we had both attended, even in spite of the fact I never looked up at him and pretended I was hard at work on his computer. After a couple minutes of his non-stop rant, I got so fed up with his complaining, I said, “Mark, the time to speak about this is IN the meeting, not after it. Why don’t you ever share these thoughts?” His response: “I don’t want to say something that could hurt my credibility.” At that point, I realized Mark was never going to get the respect he wanted. I looked at him and said, “Can’t talk now Mark, I’m busy,” and I made it a point to never let him start a post-meeting discussion with me again.
Join me this Wednesday, December 15, for a FREE webinar on the right way to participate in meetings. In it, I’ll highlight the do’s and don’ts of good meeting etiquette. You’ll leave with a new appreciation for what it takes to earn management’s and co-workers’ respect in meetings.
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