Last week during my Office Hours on Youtube, a client asked about how to deal with a workplace bully. After spending many years in corporate HR, I flipped to the other side and became a career therapist. So, I've seen both sides of this situation in the workplace. In this video, I discuss why people struggle to deal with bullies and what you can do to change the situation instantly.
Last year, millennials surpassed Gen Xers as the largest generation in the U.S. workforce. As a result, more and more millennials are being pushed into managerial positions without fully knowing how to manage co-workers their own age.
Can you imagine traveling without transportation for 5,950 miles with no breaks within 10 days? It sounds crazy, but the bar-tailed godwit bird does it every year, traveling from Alaska to New Zealand with virtually no breaks in between. A trip you might think takes months to accomplish takes less than two weeks for this creature. It might sound crazy, but this bird can teach you a lot about reaching your goals. “Sometimes in our lives, we want to accomplish so much,” said Joanne Chan, a presentation coach at Own The Room, a communication skills training company. “But we say to ourselves, ‘[I] can’t do that. I don’t have the capabilities.’ But capability is not the problem.” Chances are, you can’t even fathom making that journey. You probably think to yourself, “That’s impossible.” So, why can the bar-tailed godwit do it? According to Chan, part of this is attributed to focus. The bird, unlike a human, isn’t looking to other birds during its flight thinking, “Why is that bird flying faster than me?” or “What does that bird think of me?” It’s not distracted by these kinds of thoughts, so it can stay focused on the main goal. According to Chan, there’s tons of energy and power within us that we haven’t tapped into yet. The problem, she said, is that there’s so much “noise” in your head that distracts you from reaching your goals. “Get rid of the noises in your head,” said Chan. “Get rid of the bad energies and the things that are not meant for you. Listen to the inner voice and just let your heart guide you to where you need to be. If you truly nurture the things that are meant for you, you start to fly, and you will arrive at a great place much sooner than you think.” When it comes to reaching your goals, eliminate the distractions in your head. Send away those unnecessary and unwanted noises that fill up your mind, distracting you from your goal. This will allow you to get there as quickly as possible.
Being persuasive is a trait many people wish they had. Think about it: how many times a day do you wish you could change someone’s mind? How often do you crave influence? When you present an idea, project, or pitch, your main goal is to persuade someone to agree with you. But what’s the secret to being persuasive at work --- or ANYWHERE for that matter? According to Jeff McHugh, a presentation coach at Own The Room, a communication skills training company, the secret is storytelling. “If you want people to look at the world through your eyes,” he said, “tell them a story.” For example, how often do you remember statistics when someone is trying to convince you to change your behavior or mindset? For most of us, statistics aren’t memorable. But how many times do you showcase statistics when you make a presentation or pitch at work? Chances are, you use statistics regularly. While this isn’t a bad thing, it’s not going to be the piece that persuades your audience to agree with you. However, how many times do you remember a STORY that pulls at your heartstrings, makes you laugh, or draws out another emotion? Here’s an example. What influences your opinion more? According to a recent survey, four out of 10 people have found their “best” job through networking. OR… I spent hours, days, even MONTHS applying to jobs online and I got NO RESULTS. It wasn’t until I spent that time on my networking strategy that I found myself face-to-face with the CEO of my dream company, which lead to the job offer I had been waiting for since I graduated college. Which one makes you think differently about the power of networking? Being persuasive at work isn’t as hard as you might think. It just comes down to good storytelling. Next time you try to convey an idea, an opinion, or a project, pause for a moment and think: “stories, not stuff.”
There are going to come times when you have disagreements with your manager, and it’s really easy to become emotional about it. However, there’s a much better route to take than getting angry. “I’ve seen people have outbursts, I’ve seen people be passive aggressive in the office,” said career expert J.T. O’Donnell. “But that just doesn’t work. That’s not productive for anyone.” Having disagreements with your manager isn’t easy, but there are a few steps you can take in order to make the most out of the situation…
So, what’s “managing up” anyway? Basically, it’s when you “manage” your boss. Sounds weird, right? Actually, it’s one of the best things you can do for your career. Not only does it make your boss’s life easier, but it makes you a stand out employee. According to O’Donnell, the better you get to know your boss (his or her preferences, goals, etc), the better you can craft what you do each and every day at the office in order to create value. Now, here’s the most important question: how do you manage up effectively? “You have to understand and anticipate the needs of your boss,” said O’Donnell. The easiest way to do that is to ask. According to O’Donnell, you need to schedule a meeting with your boss and ask the following questions:
We live in a virtual world, and with more and more companies opening up to remote work opportunities, video conferencing is gaining popularity. But what do you need to do in order to have a successful video conference with your teammates, clients, or management team? Here are five quick tips for better video conferences: