Success Tweet: Make sure your mission and vision are what you want. Not what someone else wants for you.
This is really important. You need to live your own life and create your own career success. Over the years, I have had way too many career success coach clients who felt as if they were trapped in careers they didn’t really choose. That’s not a good way to build career success. You have to love what you do. You have to be passionate about what you do. This love and passion has to come from deep inside you.
This means you need to choose the career you love – not what others want you to love. Parents, friends and peers mean well when they try to steer you into a career they think is right for you. But, parents, friends and peers are not you. You know what’s best for you.
Many people apply to medical or law school because their parents want them to become a doctor or a lawyer. However, after a year or two of school, or worse yet, a year or two of practice as a doctor or a lawyer some of these people figure out they aren’t living their life purpose, they’re living the life their parents want for them. And, they have a mountain of student loan debt.
These folks become angry and bitter. They spend a lifetime going through the motions, never really developing that sense of happiness and career success that comes from doing what they love and what they choose to do.
We all have to find our passion in life and pursue it. I had a double major at Penn State, broadcast journalism and human development. My senior year I had an internship at a television station in Scranton, PA. I did well in the internship. As luck would have it, one of the reporters announced his plans to leave the station right about the time I was to graduate. The News Director liked me and offered me a reporter job. I was flattered and really tempted to take it. This was a rare opportunity. In those days, most people coming out of college had to spend a few years in radio news prior to moving to TV. Yet, I was lucky enough to receive an offer at a TV station right out of school.
However, there was one small problem. I had already committed to doing a year of service as a VISTA Volunteer. I could have backed out of that commitment, but my personal ethics wouldn’t let me do so. I turned down the TV news job. The News Director and my Journalism advisor at Penn State did their best to convince me this was a special opportunity and there would be no guarantee I would be able to secure a similar offer one year later. They had my best interests in mind. They wanted me to get off to a running start in the world of TV news.
I chose to stick to my commitment of a year of service. And I’m glad I did. That year of service opened my eyes to career possibilities I didn’t know existed. After my year of service, I took a job that helped me identify my purpose in life – helping others grow and succeed. To paraphrase this Success Tweet, I made sure my personal mission and vision were what I wanted – not what my professor, boss, and parents for that matter – wanted for me.
These people where all well meaning. My professor saw some promise in me. He liked my writing style. He thought I would be a great TV news writer. Besides that, he saw his students work in the broadcast journalism field as part of his legacy. The News Director saw an opportunity to fill a vacancy with a proven commodity. My parents thought a “real job,” as opposed to a year of service was better for me.
However, I had to decide foe myself. And, I made the correct decision.
The common sense career success coach point here is simple. Successful people look deep inside themselves to discover their purpose and direction in life. They listen to, even solicit, advice from people they respect and trust. But when it comes to creating their personal mission and vision, they follow the advice in Tweet 5 in Success Tweets: “Make sure your personal mission and vision are what you want – not what someone else wants for you.”
It’s your life and your career. You have to live it. That’s why you have to choose your personal mission and vision based on what’s right for you – not what other people think is right for you. Other people, particularly those close to you, usually have your best interests at heart. That’s why you should listen to what they have to say; but you need to make the final decision on your personal mission by yourself. That’s they first step in taking personal responsibility for your life and career success.
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