Slept With the Boss, is My Career in Danger?

Dear J.T. & Dale: At my present job, the manager and I dated and it was a sour breakup. She says she wants me to find another job, and I am trying. She is very vindictive and says I have done "illegal things." She claims that I have harassed her, but don't let me forget to tell you that she is married and this isn't the first time she has had someone on the side. Her husband also is a general manager for the same company at a different location. - Keith J.T.: I am struggling to see any possible way for this situation to turn out in your favor. There is just too much stacked against you. Your options are to seek legal counsel and start to build a credible case of harassment against her, or to leave. The former will be both expensive and difficult to do. DALE: Hold on. Sure, sleeping with the boss, especially one who's married to another boss, is dumb... BUT, hey, it's the manager who committed the firing offense, not you. She's trying to scare you off because she knows that it's her career in danger. J.T.: True, but I would focus on finding a new employer and getting out before things get any more out of hand. Better to cut your losses and go rebuild your career someplace where you can be judged on your work only. At this current job, that is no longer an option. DALE: There still is the option of demanding a transfer to another company location or negotiating a nice severance package. Your manager does not want you to take this to HR, so you have plenty of leverage. However, Keith, man to man, come on... go into that discussion knowing that you've made some serious enemies and that you need to quickly negotiate your severance and smooth departure. Feel free to send questions to J.T. and Dale via e-mail at advice@jtanddale.com or write to them in care of King Features Syndicate, 300 W. 57th Street, 15th Floor, New York, NY 10019. © 2012 by King Features Syndicate, Inc. Image Credit: Shutterstock

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