Dear Experts, I don't like my boss very much. We get along in the office, but it's purely professional because we couldn't be more different. She's recently divorced and I just found out she is going to be at the same Halloween party as me, dressed as a witch (FYI - very appropriate). I really want to go to this party and be able to let loose and be myself, but there's no way I can do that with her there. Should I just skip it? If I do, she and the person who invited me will know something is up. Honestly, this makes me really resentful of her. In my opinion, she shouldn't be going to a party where all the people who report to her are going to be at. Seems totally unprofessional to me. Here is how our CAREEREALISM-Approved Experts answered this question on Twitter: Q#355 Um, so supervisors can't party, too? Forget it! You're not on the clock. Hang out and have fun! (@beneubanks) Q#355 Boss is part of comp. too & has right 2 go. U shld. also attend and behave appropriately whether she is there or not. (@DebraWheatman) Q#355 Best advice I can give is to outperform her. Try to ignore the attitude and get the best of her through your work. (@gradversity) Q#355 Hope u went 2 party, had fun & were cordial 2 boss. 2 let loose, go out w/friends after party w/cowkrs. (@juliaerickson) Q#355 "Let loose" at a company party? That's the first mistake. (@JoshuaWaldman) Q#355 She was invited. U too. Open UR mind. U might find common ground. BTW-Function full of co-workers= don't "let loose". (@dawnbugni) Our Twitter Advice Project (T.A.P.) is no longer an active campaign. To find an answer to the above question, please use the "Search" box in the right-hand column of this website.
October 30, 2009