None of us needs to be reminded that a job interview isn’t the place to let your Halloween creativity emerge. Regardless of the time of year, there may be some hidden ways that you’re spooking the hiring manager during an interview. RELATED: 10 Little Things That Make A Big Difference To Hiring Managers
I’ve worked with hundreds of job seekers, and the place where they get tripped up isn’t a tactical one. It’s not about their resume, their cover letter, or their LinkedIn profile. It’s an insidious beast, one that they don’t see coming and that gets them every time. It comes without warning, and it puts them in a throat lock. RELATED: Need some job search advice? Watch these tutorials! Here it is, the piece that destroys almost any search in a blink of an eye: ignoring the emotional side of this process. Look, any sane person would (and does) have strong emotional reactions to the job search process. Anger, fear, desperation, bitterness. Essentially all of us know that work-life defines a core piece of ourselves, and when it’s in jeopardy, when we slip into a state where we’re not in the driver’s seat of this essential part of ourselves, it’s tough. In fact, it’s downright threatening and terrifying. Expressing and processing these reactions to a job search is healthy. It’s what keeps our heads above water. It’s what allows us to access the other dimensions of ourselves: the strong, resilient, optimistic, creative, forward-focused parts. So, in order to get to those useful parts, you’ve got to move through the muck. It’s tough to do that processing with your usual go-to supports. Your family, particularly your partner, has a stake in your financial success, and if you’re both unhinged by the job search process, there’s no one to set the stabilizing, “it’ll be okay” tone. Certainly, it doesn’t help to hide your process from your family since it’s a key part of what you’re doing now. What’s the typical communication pattern in your family when you have tense topics to discuss? Do you tend to have a candid conversation about how to support each other? Explore the best way to share what you’re experiencing? Ask about their needs while sharing your own? Consider the best route to having meaningful and supportive conversations with your family. Your friends can be resources, especially those friends who have been in a search themselves. Think about who can shift their focus to hear all of what you’re saying, who can be receptive to your venting and your dark side without placating you or backing away slowly? Who do you know in these categories?
How can any of us resist the urge to reinvent ourselves with the turning of the calendar to 2016? Jump on the bandwagon – there’s plenty of room here among the hopeful, the determined, and the motivated. Related: What’s The First Step When You’re Ready For A Career Change?
As the calendar turns toward 2016 and we’re crafting our resolution list, the question of whether it’s time to make a career change often pops up. Related: What's The First Step When You're Ready For A Career Change? If the answer for you is a resounding “Yes!” use this handy outline to waltz through the process and make 2016 your best career year yet.
You’ve moved past restlessness into the “Must Switch Gears” phase of your career. You know that if you wait any longer, you’ll become bitter and jaded. It’s time. People stand on this precipice thinking that their next move is a leap – the more dramatic, the better. They often find themselves paralyzed because the jump is too scary. But the truth is, when you’re at this point, you need to get focused and gather data. You need to know exactly where you’re going before you can embark on your journey.