Dear Experts, My ex-girlfriend works at the company I just applied to. I haven't heard from them and I think she may have 'bad-mouthed' me to the hiring manager. Is there anyway to find out of this really did this and what can I do if she did? Here is how our CAREEREALISM-Approved Experts answered this question on Twitter:Q#391 What's the point? Doesn't seem like much can be done after finding your answer. (@teenarose) Q#391 Don't speculate! Call to see if materials received. If ex is so awful, have great reason to work there or move on. (@juliaerickson) Q#391 You're probably being paranoid, but if not, this isn't worth pursuing. Just move on to something more worthwhile. (@gradversity) Q#391 There's no way to find out. Move on and find something better! (@DebraWheatman) Q#391 I would leave it alone and move on. You may never know, but what would you do if you did? (@MarySevinsky) Q#391 Hiring Managers know a new hire with ex already on staff can be recipe for trouble. Move on. Apply elsewhere. (@ResumeStrategy) Q#391 She's that vindictive? WOW! Follow-up on app to see if it's been filled & hope for best. (@jtodonnell) Q#391 Bad mouthing puts her in bad light w/ mgmt. Should separate biz from personal. To know 4 sure-call & ask her. (@DawnBugni) [2 of 2] Q#391 Ex could be behind it, but more likely the glacial speed of the hiring process. Does she even know you applied? (@DawnBugni) [1 of 2] Q#391 It depends on her position. Could she have known? If you'd be working w/her, I'd just skip that org. (@beneubanks) Our Twitter Advice Project (T.A.P.) is no longer an active campaign. To find an answer to the above question, please use the "Search" box in the right-hand column of this website.

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