It's called relational aggression and it's just one of the many ways women can sabotage their careers. Leadership and strategic communications consultant, Susan Tardanico, shares some of the ways women can sabotage their careers, and potential ways for how to fix these problems:
1. Relational Aggression
Bigstock
As we already described above, relational aggression is when women work to sabotage other women in the workplace and are competitive in all of the wrong ways. "Behaviors include things like backstabbing, gossip, rumor-mongering, bullying, and icing people out," says Tardanico. "This not only hurts women, but it's a turnoff to many men, too, and can prevent a woman from moving up in her career."
Though there's been a significant rise in entrepreneurship, there still seem to be gender gaps in those leadership positions, particularly in the U.S. That being said, one would expect more women to help each other in the workplace, but instead, they tend to criticize and even sabotage each other.
2. The "Good Girl" Curse
Bigstock
Though this certainly doesn't apply to all women out there, that doesn't mean this problem doesn't exist. As Tardanico describes, the "good girl" curse stems from years of messages that tell women they shouldn't "rock the boat, [they should] get along with others, be the peacemaker, don't talk back, be selfless and soft-spoken, make friends," says Tardanico. Though these routines seem okay when one is younger, Tardanico states that these types of attitudes can be harmful in the workplace.
There are many situations when capable women work hard on projects in the workplace, but at the first sign of challenging feedback, they retract and forget all about their research, all to avoid conflict or confrontation.
3. The Impostor Syndrome
Bigstock
We've all carried feelings of self-doubt; it's in our nature as human beings. However, with impostor syndrome, it's more than just self-doubt. It's "a condition of such deep rooted insecurity that we feel like we're an impostor—faking how good we really are," says Tardanico. "And deep inside, we're afraid that someday, someone is going to realize the truth—that we are really incompetent and undeserving of our position—and our dirty secret will be out."
Such strong feelings of self-doubt can cause employees to sabotage their careers by not striving for promotions simply because they don't believe that they deserve it, or they become "intense micromanagers" which can make an employee susceptible to burning out quickly because they are constantly trying to "overcompensate for their lack of confidence," says Tardanico.
Fortunately, there are solutions to these problems, and it all begins with recognizing these behaviors. "In all three cases, awareness is a crucial first step," says Tardanico. "Often, women don't realize that these sabotaging thought and behavior patterns are within their control...they can make a new choice."
Search within yourselves. If you have any of these behaviors in the workplace and it's negatively impacted your career, find out what's keeping you from excelling at your talents and actively seek to make changes for a more positive, successful career.
Looking to grow your career? We can help!
Check out our FREE resources page and Live Events Calendar.
Or, join our career growth club today and get access to one-on-one career coaching, resume and cover letter reviews, online tutorials, and unlimited networking opportunities—all in your back pocket!
If you want FREE career advice in your inbox, subscribe to our newsletter The Daily Dose!
This post was originally published at an earlier date.
