Dear Experts, I'm 26 years old, pregnant, not married and keeping my baby. I have a great job at a consulting firm, but the hours are crazy (I work 60+/week) and it's really stressful. Those that make it here go on to amazing jobs that pay well. The exact kind of career I've been working for my whole life. I haven't told a soul about the pregnancy, not for fear of getting fired (I know they can't do that), but because they are going to change their attitude towards me. I think when they find out my career track is over with them. I'm going to start showing in a few weeks - what should I do? Here is how our T.A.P. experts answered this question: Q#246 Be honest w/them (you'd want them honest w/you!). But be practical. 60+ hr weeks with a baby=bad idea. (@beneubanks) Q#246 It's probably time to evaluate your career goals vs. your personal ones. Remember, it's just a job, not your life. (@gradversity) Q#246 B introspective re: YOUR needs/impending family goals; will same ambitious work schedule still fit? (@ValueIntoWords) Q#246 Pregnancy a disability; attitudes may shift, many will be happy 4 u if YOU r happy. Or look 4 new job. (@juliaerickson) Q#246 What is YOUR intention re work? If u want 2 work same hrs, u'll demo same old 2 bosses over time. (@juliaerickson) Q#246 (PART 2) If company won't change expectations for you, build plan now to transition to job w/less hrs. (@jtodonnell) Q#246 (PART 1) 60 hours/wk w/new baby = tough. Their reaction is because they know you won't work that much. (@jtodonnell) Q#246 Why assume they will treat u differently? Has nothing to do w ur work & they don't know your intentions re: post baby. (@DebraWheatman) Our Twitter Advice Project (T.A.P.) is no longer an active campaign. To find an answer to the above question, please use the "Search" box in the right-hand column of this website.
August 13, 2009