We know interviews by their very nature are stressful. There are many things you can do to reduce the stress a job interview produces. You can prepare the possible questions, dress your best, research the company, and use many other interview preparation strategies. However, there is one simple secret to acing a job interview: breathe. Yes, breathe. Not the breathing you are doing right now but breathe from your diaphragm. There is a remarkable relationship between how you breathe and the stress you feel. Put breathing from the diaphragm into your interview preparation.
Our thoughts are magnets that attract the thoughts we are thinking. Even if you want something desperately, if your thoughts say you will never get it. Guess what? You won’t. However, if you change your thoughts on achieving it, you will. Mostly because if your thoughts are laser focused on getting it, you will do the right things in order to attain it. This principle can be applied to many areas of your life. Whether it is getting well, losing weight, quit smoking, competing at peak levels or finding a job, your attitude is crucial to success. Believing you can do something provides the strength and stamina to overcome the obstacles in your path. Positive thinking propels a small engine successfully up a mighty hill and you to landing your dream job. This principle can be applied to your job search. By changing your thoughts, you will reach your goal. Notice the attitudes of successful candidates. They are positive and enthusiastic. They keep their heads up high and smile. They believe from the bottom of their being they will get a job. The unsuccessful candidates walk around saying there aren’t any jobs, they will never find anything and other such thoughts. How to use the Law of Attraction in your job search:
When Dealing With Family Holidays...Step 1: In the days leading up to the occasion, determine what you want people to know. Anticipate their questions. Because you know them so well, you can predict what comments they will have. This step is crucial to being prepared for any situation. Write it all down. Step 2: Look at what you have written and take each statement one by one. Write down how you want to respond. Rewrite, tweak, then practice, practice, practice your responses. Out loud. It is very important to rehearse so you don’t forget any of the golden nuggets you worked so hard to obtain. You should be able to fluently recite the answers word for word or paraphrase them without missing a thought or idea. Step 3: Pre-arrange a signal with a trusted ally. This will get you out of harm’s way in case someone grabs your attention and–despite all your best, most polite efforts to get away–won’t let you go. This signal should be subtle and discreet—remove your glasses, a tie or scarf, or tug your right ear, ala Carol Burnett. You don’t have to leave the gathering, just that person. It can be a life saver. Step 4: When you arrive at the event, you get to choose the time and place to use your prepared statement. You can also choose which person you talk to first. Say what you have planned and don’t allow anyone to interrupt you. This is your time to say what needs to be said. When you finish, indicate that you are not open to discussion about it. It’s a party! By all means remain, calm and respectful. One more thing: Remain alcohol-free when you do this. It adds to your credibility. Step 5: Enjoy the rest of the event! You will enjoy the rest of the event if you continue to stick to the commitment you made with yourself. Gathering for the holidays is meant to be fun and enjoyable for everyone. But every family has ways of pushing its members’ buttons. Sometimes, it is all in good fun; other times, not so. This can be hurtful for the person on the receiving end, even when comments are intended to be in good fun or to be sincerely helpful. With a planning and patience, the holidays with family can be the happy times they are meant to be. Enjoy the holidays and your family! Arleen Bradley is a Certified Job Loss Recovery Coach, a Certified Career Management Coach and a Certified Job Search Strategist. She is the founder/coordinator of two job search networking groups in which over 225 people have obtained jobs - and is the author of the weekly career blog, Surviving Unemployment. Family holiday dinner image from Shutterstock
'Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house, Not a creature was working, not even the mouse. The stockings were hung by the chimney with care, In hopes they wouldn’t show the wear and tear. The children were nestled all snug in their beds, While visions of iPads, Abercrombie and Fitch danced in their heads. With bills unpaid and the mortgage due, I tried to relax and renew. When in my chest I felt a flutter, I sprang from my bed to see what was the matter. Right to the laptop I flew, To see what I should do. To WebMD I went right away, By now it was all the healthcare I could pay. But what to my eyes should appear, The reason for my flutter became clear. With the symptoms spelled out, I knew I was stressed with no doubt. Not having a job was heavy on my mind, I needed a job of any kind. To CareerBuilder! To Monster! To Craigslist and Indeed! On the company websites I had to look with speed. I found all the jobs that I would apply, Now to create a resume without a lie. Functional or chronological, it was difficult to choose, The only thing that mattered was the schmooze. So I decided on one, And from my mind the words did run. And then in a flash it was complete, Making it effective was quite a feat. But there was no time to relax, It had to go by fax. Each had a cover letter, To make my skills and experience look better. Sending a packet to each firm, I wondered who would confirm. The fax machine LCD twinkled on each transmission, While I only hoped for a successful reception. The tones and beeps confirmed my premonition, I was on my way to ending this transition. The cookies set out for Santa before, Were my fuel for this tedious chore. One by one the resumes were fed into the machine, To finish this task I would surely need caffeine. This would be a good job for some little elf, I laughed when I thought of this in spite of myself. Soon I realized I had nothing to dread, Because doing it myself they would arrive and maybe read. Without taking a break, I continued my work, I wanted to finish before I went berserk. The hour was late and I wanted to doze, But needed to finish before everyone arose. I finished at last with some time to spare, And decided to spend the rest of the night in my chair. I managed to utter before my head started to bob, Happy Christmas to all and to all good a job!Arleen Bradley is a Certified Job Loss Recovery Coach, a Certified Career Management Coach and a Certified Job Search Strategist. She is the founder/coordinator of two job search networking groups in which over 225 people have obtained jobs - and is the author of the weekly career blog, Surviving Unemployment. Read more » articles by this approved career expert | Click here » if you’re a career expert Businessman with Christmas tree image from Shutterstock