Have you joined our career growth club?

When 'Being Nosy' Can Be a Powerful Technique

There is nothing quite as alluring and seductive as sharing time with someone who finds you extremely interesting. We all love to talk about ourselves and find it very flattering when another party seems to be fascinated by some aspect of our experience, background or area of specialty. Having someone ask us probing questions about what WE love to do or who WE are creates a very positive mental and emotional bond of sorts with that individual. It seems all too common, however, in casual conversation with someone else, we ultimately feel compelled to talk more about ourselves, a subject definitely much less interesting to the other party (e.g. BORING and forgettable). Message: stay aware of this natural compulsion and begin to make the conscious shift to focusing more on the other person. Authors Linda Kaplan Thaler and Robin Koval in their book, The Power of Small -- Why Little Things Make All the Difference (2009), cite a recent clinical psychology study revealing "being nosy" is actually a turn-on. The more curious people are during a conversation, the more positive the outcome, whether it is a casual encounter or one where a deeper connection is sought. Either way, the other person feels important and valued, which then has a boomerang effect on the person asking the questions. Who doesn't like being around someone who seem infinitely more interested in our lives than their own? Be that person! Leave a lasting positive impression by focusing more on the other person than on yourself. This rapport-building technique should become a habit for you and should be a reflection of who you really are -- someone who sincerely cares about others and puts their needs first. [This article was originally posted on an earlier date] Andy Robinson, founder of Career Success Partners, is a leading authority on career success and a 15-year career coaching veteran. Read more » articles by this approved career expert | Click here » if you’re a career expert Photo credit: Shutterstock
Have you joined our career growth club?

It's beginning to look a like Christmas! Well, not quite yet. But if you're looking to make some extra cash during the holiday season, now is the time to begin searching as seasonal jobs are starting to be posted.

According to the website Snagajob, 27% of companies that hire employees for the holiday season begin their recruitment efforts in August. In addition, Snagajob reports that there is money to be made during the holiday season as seasonal workers earned an average of $15.40 an hour in 2018. With that in mind, here are some options to consider if you're looking for a seasonal job for the holiday season.

SHOW MORE Show less