There’s a sneaky little secret that will help you market yourself to anyone. And I bet you haven’t heard of it before... Have you ever worked on a team with someone who wasn’t very motivated? Most of us have worked with someone like this. Don’t you just wish you could take that person and MAKE them do the work they need to do? Don’t you just wish they could feel the same motivation you feel to get the project done? If you’re leading a sales team, can you make them believe in the product you’re selling? If you have a teenager, can you make them happy about the family road trip you’re about to take? Well, unfortunately, you can’t. “You can’t put emotions into people,” said Lidia Arshavsky, a presentation coach at Own The Room, a communication skills training company. However, there’s good news - you CAN draw emotions out of people. And the best way to do this is by feeling the emotion first. For example, if you believe the product you’re selling is the best product on the market, your sales team is going to believe it to - that emotion is going to spread, it’s going to be infectious. Unfortunately, there’s a dark side to this truth, according to Arshavsky. “What happens when you go to a job interview and you don’t feel completely confident that this is the right match for you, that you can do this job?” she said. “How is that interviewer going to feel? They’re not going to feel confident either.” In this situation, what can you do? You need to tap into the things you DO feel confident about - your ability to learn, your eagerness to join the company, your enthusiasm for the work. You need to access those things and let them radiate. “Emotions are contagious,” said Arshavsky, “let that emotion fill the room.” The next time you want someone to feel an emotion, take a step back and let yourself feel that emotion first. If you want to market yourself to an employer or market your product to your customer, you must tap into these emotions.
Ever walk out of a job interview knowing you totally bombed it? It's not a great feeling. In fact, all you want to do is crawl into bed, hide under a pillow, and wish it never happened. Screwing up a job interview isn't the end of the world, even though it might feel like it at first. But how can you bounce back?
Criticism comes with the territory in any job—and in life. So, in your job interview the interviewer will probably ask you about how you handle it. It may come in the form of a behavioral interview question such as ‘Describe a time when your work was criticized and how you handled it.’ Your answer—the story you choose and how you talk about it—will tell them a lot about your character and how you perform under pressure. Related: How To Prepare For Your Job Interview The truth is that in order to be successful, we all need to be open to criticism. If you aren’t, then you aren’t coachable. You can’t learn things that make you better than you were before. And if you can’t do that, then you don’t grow and you never become as accomplished or as valuable as you could be.
Everyone has insecurities. Even those who appear “perfect” to the rest of us have something about themselves that they don’t like. According to an article entitled, “10 Celebrities with Weird Insecurities,” Megan Fox is self-conscious about her “stubby thumbs,” Angelina Jolie thinks she looks like a “funny muppet,” adding that she believes she is “odd-looking,” Kaley Cuoco-Sweeting of The Big Bang Theory hates the sound of her own voice. Even Kate Moss, the internationally acclaimed supermodel is self-conscious about her “bow legs.” Everyone has something about which they feel insecure. It is a part of the human condition. Related: 2 Steps To Being More Likable During Interviews Here is the deal, however. Even though you may feel insecure about some quirk that you believe you have (and probably no one but you would believe or even notice), you can’t let it interfere with your ability to get out in the world and let yourself compete and succeed. If you do, you are the one holding yourself back…it isn’t someone else who is keeping you from being all that you want to be. You are doing it to yourself! As humans, we have a knack for smelling other people’s insecurities, and because of our struggles with our own “stuff,” we find it a big old turn off when other people indulge themselves in their insecurities. In other words, you wind up sabotaging yourself if you don’t get control of yourself and start behaving like the amazing person you are—warts and all—instead of agonizing over some perceived flaw in your appearance or personality. Want to know how these insecurities can negatively impact your ability to interview successfully. Read on. I am offering nine different ways that your insecurities are hurting your interview every single time: