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I Don’t Want Them to Call My Former Colleague!


Dear Experts,

I interviewed for a job and the conversation turned to the company I worked for a few years back. We started the ‘name game’ and the next thing you know, the hiring manager tell me he knows a woman at my old employer that I CAN’T STAND.

We didn’t get along and even had a blow out one time. She’s still at that company. I didn’t say that she and I didn’t have a good relationship, I just smiled and said I knew her. The hiring manager then told me she was a good friend of his family and that he would call her for a reference. What should I do? She’s going to trash me to the hiring manager and I really want that job. Suggestions?

Here is how our T.A.P. experts answered this question:

Q#289 Hope she’ll b nice but I’d keep looking. Plus if u hate her; cd b u wdn’t like wkg 4 friend of hers. (@juliaerickson)

Q#289 It takes a special person to bury someone’s career over personal issues. Unless you can bury the hatchet, move on. (@gradversity)

Q#289 Next time, find a positive about worker you didn’t like. “We weren’t friendly, but I respect __ for __.” (@jtodonnell)

Q#289 Tell mgr. that u did not have great relationship w. her. Better to use someone else as reference. Nothing 2 lose now. (@DebraWheatman)

Q#289 Nothing you can do that I can see. Might try to be proactive, but friendly ppl=hard to influence. (@beneubanks)

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