I’ve been working for a software company for 3 years now and I’ve yet to receive a promotion. My co-worker asked me to go to a ‘Fourth of July BBQ’ this weekend as his “date.” I don’t feel comfortable dating co-workers but it just so happens my co-worker also sits on a committee deciding who is getting the next promotion in my department.
Even though I’m not attracted to him I’m debating on still going as his “date” to see if I can get an advantage to earning a promotion this year. Is this wrong?
Here is how our T.A.P. experts answered this question:
@DebraWheatman Q#185 Be true to yourself. Not a good way to get a promotion and it can work against you. Earn it the right way.
@beneubanks Q#185 Yes, definitely WRONG to use a date w/coworker to get a promotion. Sexual harassment written all over it.
@teenarose Q#185 Using colleague wouldn’t guarantee promotion; and if it did, might bring on some bad juju. Take the noble path.
@jtodonnell Q#185 Skip BBQ & ask him to lunch during work hours. Seek his advice getting promoted. That’s proper networking.
@gradversity Q#185 I suspect that you already know the answer to this question. Don’t do it. It isn’t the right way to get promoted.
@askamanager Q#185 Would you want him to use the potential of a promotion to get a date w/you? No? Then don’t do the same thing yourself.
@AndyInNaples Q#185 I would strongly advise AGAINST this tactic. Sends the wrong message. Could work against you too.
@heatherhuhman: Q#185 I definitely think misleading a co-worker in hopes of landing a promotion is the wrong approach. (pt 1)
@heatherhuhman: Q#185 Have you ever officially asked for a promotion? Put forth a proposal as to why you deserve one? (pt 2)
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