Dear Experts, I have a co-worker who is a complete B!@#$! However, she is always a total sweetheart when other people are present. It's only when she is completely alone with me that she treats me terribly. She yells at me and calls me incompetent. I don't know what to do. I mentioned it once to a co-worker and she told me I was nuts that everyone loved this girl in the office. We do the same job and I'm guessing she is just threatened by me, but because she's been there longer, I'm guessing even my boss won't believe me. What can I do to get her to stop? It took me a long time to break into my profession and this job is vital to my career goals, but I'm not sure I can hack much more of my co-worker's evilness towards me. Here is how our CAREEREALISM-Approved Experts answered this question on Twitter:Q#356 Love documenting/taping; calmly say, "There's no reason 2 speak 2 me like that. Pls spk 2 me w/respect." (@juliaerickson) Q#356 1. Have u told *her* to stop? 2. Record all incidents & report it. Popularity isn’t a harassment pass! (@resumeservice) Q#356 The CAREEREALISM crew has handled bullying at work before (w/great responses): http://bit.ly/3Cmfhu. (@beneubanks) Q#356 No on bullies w/o UR permission. | Tell her to ensure understanding of project scope U R tape recording ALL convos w/her. (@dawnbugni) Q#356 You may never play the tapes for anyone, but you stop to the way you've allowed her treat you when you're alone. (@dawnbugni) Our Twitter Advice Project (T.A.P.) is no longer an active campaign. To find an answer to the above question, please use the "Search" box in the right-hand column of this website.
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If you feel like many of the job postings you come across in your job search are scams, you're not alone. You are not the first job seeker to tell me they feel this way. But we have to think about where this comes from.
The Job Application Process Is A Broken System
@j.t.odonnell Replying to @nana_5075 Why job listings feel like a scam... #jobs#careers#careertok#jobtok♬ original sound - J.T. O'Donnell
Back in the day, a company would post a job in the want ad section of a newspaper, so you'd have to open up a newspaper, read through it, write up a resume and cover letter, and snail mail your application off to them. When the idea came to post jobs online, it meant more people who were the right fit could apply. But over time, that's broken down.
Now thousands of people will apply for one job when it gets posted. And many of those job applicants are not a fit. So employers now have to hire recruiters, who are also called sourcers, to go through thousands of applicants so they can whittle it down to about 50 qualified applicants. What's the rhyme or reason they're using to select some applicants and screen others out?
This is why you don't get called—because it's just so random.
After employers get down to 50 applicants, they look through those, find a few they like, and call them. That's why only 3% of people who apply online ever hear back from companies.
It's a completely broken system, so I can see why it feels like a scam. The whole thing is flawed.
So, how do we improve this system? It starts with making better matches, getting back to a place where only the right people are applying to the employer. We actually want fewer applicants, but more of the right applicants. That's the solution. And there are hundreds of millions of dollars in this industry trying to figure it out. But the one thing we have seen is that storytelling is one of the ways to do that.
You're going to see a rise in companies telling their stories. And there's a fancy term for this in our industry. It's called employer branding. Companies will tell their stories on social media platforms like TikTok so that those stories fatefully, naturally, and organically show up in your feed. But it's not fate, right? It's the algorithm at work—and before you know it, you'll start to see companies that feel like a fit. Then you'll go over and check them out. You'll see that there's a job posted that you're fit for. And this is how this matching process will start to fine-tune itself.
Right now, yes, you're right. Those online job postings don't work. They don't work for either side. We need a better system. And storytelling is the key. So go learn how to conduct a proactive job search today so you can finally land a job and work for an employer you actually like!
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