Dear Experts, I've been working for a software company for 3 years now and I've yet to receive a promotion. My co-worker asked me to go to a 'Fourth of July BBQ' this weekend as his "date." I don't feel comfortable dating co-workers but it just so happens my co-worker also sits on a committee deciding who is getting the next promotion in my department. Even though I'm not attracted to him I'm debating on still going as his "date" to see if I can get an advantage to earning a promotion this year. Is this wrong? Here is how our T.A.P. experts answered this question:@DebraWheatmanQ#185 Be true to yourself. Not a good way to get a promotion and it can work against you. Earn it the right way. @beneubanksQ#185 Yes, definitely WRONG to use a date w/coworker to get a promotion. Sexual harassment written all over it. @teenaroseQ#185 Using colleague wouldn't guarantee promotion; and if it did, might bring on some bad juju. Take the noble path. @jtodonnellQ#185 Skip BBQ & ask him to lunch during work hours. Seek his advice getting promoted. That's proper networking. @gradversityQ#185 I suspect that you already know the answer to this question. Don't do it. It isn't the right way to get promoted. @askamanagerQ#185 Would you want him to use the potential of a promotion to get a date w/you? No? Then don't do the same thing yourself. @AndyInNaplesQ#185 I would strongly advise AGAINST this tactic. Sends the wrong message. Could work against you too. @heatherhuhman: Q#185 I definitely think misleading a co-worker in hopes of landing a promotion is the wrong approach. (pt 1) @heatherhuhman: Q#185 Have you ever officially asked for a promotion? Put forth a proposal as to why you deserve one? (pt 2) Our Twitter Advice Project (T.A.P.) is no longer an active campaign. To find an answer to the above question, please use the "Search" box in the right-hand column of this website.
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