I’ve known loss. Haven’t we all? A blizzard storms through our lives, creating paralyzing white-out conditions. In my life, a painful storm occurred when my first husband requested a divorce. Within months, I was thrust into life-altering decisions that, even under the best of emotional situations, would have been difficult. Initially, life lines were tossed my way by family and friends. After years of self-sufficiency, I was faced with either “going it alone” or accept the help of sincerely caring people. I swallowed my pride and chose the latter. I acted as well: traction was the name of the game to maintain my sanity, emotional stability, and overall fortitude. Like job loss, the death of a marriage or following the actual death of a spouse or other loved one, the storm requires mourning, but then requires forward movement to recover. Sometimes, the two must be managed concurrently. During my divorce, I did not have the luxury of flying off to a tropical island and licking my wounds or even spending a few weeks resting and healing. Instead, I had imminent bills to pay and clients to attend to. Miraculously, I was able to “fake it ’til I made it.” For example, I recall one client telling me (during the thick of the storm) I was always such a positive person when he and I met! I was strengthened by his sweet comment - further reinforcing the need for forward movement as a key to recovery. Similarly, job hunters in the midst of career storms must often keep plunging through the cold hard ground of job search. I will venture to say, with persistence and willingness to make changes, these forward-moving job seekers will see sprouts of growth emerge even during the harshest of climates.
June 21, 2013