Everybody knows the warning about the “limp handshake.” You were probably advised against that blunder when you were looking for your first job. God forbid a potential employer should reach out and wind up holding something that feels like damp earthworms! There are a couple of job interviewing secrets that can help you avoid any awkward encounters when you're visiting the office...
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In an interview, shaking hands firmly is just one of the things you have to do with your body. James Borg, author of “Persuasion: The Art of Influencing People,” says that body language makes up 93 percent of human communication. I’m not sure exactly where he came up with that number, but this is true: what you do with your body is of massive importance. And this starts BEFORE you walk into the interview.
The Findings
Harvard Business School social psychologist Amy Joy Casselberry Cuddy is an expert on nonverbal communication. One of the most valuable 21 minutes you can spend during your job search is to watch her amazing TEDTalk, “Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.” In this lecture, Cuddy explains how your body language impacts those around you, but also yourself.
Have you ever watched a cat react to another animal by arching her back and raising her fur? That’s because she wants to seem bigger. Animals instinctively know that by taking up more space, they seem more bold. Even humans are hard-wired this way; people blind since birth will raise their arms and tilt their heads back – getting “bigger” – when they feel triumphant.
Cuddy talks about “power poses,” such as putting one’s feet on the desk and leaning back, arms behind the head. Or standing with hands on hips. feet apart. But if you think I’m going to tell you to position yourself this way during an interview, STOP! You want to look like a confident person, not like a pompous jerk.
Don't Do This
Let’s start with what NOT to do. In an article entitled “Interview Body Language Gaffes That Can Cost You the Job,” Forbes writer Jacquelyn Smith warns against crossing your arms, twiddling your hair, or invading personal space (remember the “close talker” on “Seinfeld?”).
Try This Instead
But you can use non-verbal messages to your benefit. Cuddy tells you poses that you can adopt to appear more confident and competent during an interview. You’ve heard, “Fake it ‘till you make it.” But Cuddy says, “Fake it until you BECOME it.” Because here is the secret – your body language actually changes the way you feel about yourself before you meet your interviewer face-to-face!
Cuddy shares studies that show simply sitting or standing in one of these “power poses” increases your testosterone and lowers your cortisol levels, bathing your brain with chemicals that make you feel more optimistic, more assertive and less anxious. So when you do this, you’re actually not “faking” anything. You’re affecting a change in the way you think and feel – which changes who you are. Whoa.
Even Two Minutes Make A Difference
And this chemical change happens quickly. So the next time you have an interview, take two minutes alone – in the elevator or the restroom or wherever you can sneak them – and stand with hands on hips, feet apart. Or raise your arms and tilt your head back. You’ll walk into that interview a more confident, competent you.
I said there was one secret, but there are actually two: there are organizations that can help you become more comfortable with your body language, and one of them is Toastmasters International. For about $72 a year, you can join a worldwide organization dedicated to communication and leadership development. To find a chapter near you, go to the official Toastmasters website and enter your zip code to find a club. (One of the first things you’ll learn is how to avoid that limp handshake!)
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True or false? Recruiters don't read cover letters.
Most people may think this is true, but guess what? They're wrong!
Recruiters do, in fact, read the good cover letters.
So, what does that tell us? If most people don't hear back from recruiters, and recruiters only read good cover letters, that means a majority of cover letters aren't written well and, therefore, don't stand out to them.
That may be hard to hear, but it's the truth.
CRITICAL Cover Letter Mistakes
Often, there's WAY too much "blah, blah, blah" and "brag, brag, brag" going on in a cover letter. If you write a cover letter that only focuses on how great you are, recruiters are going to toss it.
Why? Because it's exactly like all the other cover letters they've read.
Think about it. Why should they think you're incredible when they've read hundreds of other cover letters saying other people are incredible, too?
If you want to stand out in the hiring process, you MUST have an attention-grabbing cover letter. This an important tool to have, and one that shouldn't be glossed over. In some cases, your cover letter can hold more power than your resume. That's huge, right?
Getting Personal On Your Cover Letter
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Because the cover letter holds so much power, you need to know how to write one that stands out from the rest. One way to do that is to show a personal connection with the employer.
So, how exactly do you do that?
You can explain how you learned that what they do is special. Showing them that you personally connect with their brand will make you memorable.
Another thing you can do is tell them what it was like the first time you used their product or service. That also shows recruiters that you understand the company and that you believe in what they do.
Lastly, you can tell them about an overall life experience that helps you feel connected to their tribe. This shows that your values and beliefs align with theirs.
The big fact here is that the more personal the cover letter, the better! When you have a cover letter that really has recruiters at "hello," you know you have their heart AND their mind engaged.
Creating That Crucial Connection
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The reason you want to get personal in your cover letter is because you want to create an emotional connection with a recruiter. Once you establish that connection, you're not just a piece of paper anymore.
This is what we at Work It Daily call a disruptive cover letter. Why? Because it disrupts the reader and gets them to snap out of autopilot mode and really think about who you are as a candidate.
The First Step When Writing A Disruptive Cover Letter
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The first thing you need to do is watch a quick video tutorial on how to write this kind of cover letter. You're going to want to see specific examples so that you know how you should be writing them.
Step 2: Fill Out A Simple Template
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You'll have a template that tells you where the beginning, middle, and end of your cover letter are, and what content should be where. This gives you a great foundation for how to fill out a cover letter properly.
Step 3: Submit That Cover Letter For Review
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Once you're done with your amazing cover letter, have someone review it.
It's always good to have a second set of eyes on this, especially someone who understands cover letters, recruiters, and the hiring process. This person should be checking grammar, spelling, etc.
So, when all is said and done, how long should it take you to craft a disruptive cover letter? The average time is between one and two hours. That may seem like a lot of time, but think of it this way: once you've built a cover letter you know will grab a recruiter's attention, you'll be able to use that cover letter format for other job opportunities. You'll just have to tweak the content in your disruptive cover letter here and there to match the company and job you're applying to.
Does The Disruptive Cover Letter REALLY Work?
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Here at Work It Daily, we know these disruptive cover letters work. We've seen hundreds of our clients write KILLER cover letters and get calls for their dream jobs!
So, wouldn't learning how to write your own disruptive cover letter be good for your career? If so, how much would it be worth?
All of us at Work It Daily personally believe that it's priceless.
Owning your career change or job search process is a powerful thing, and we believe you can take control of that process and do incredible things.
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Let's face it: job search can be challenging, and staying motivated during a frustrating job search can seem impossible sometimes. However, it's critical that you stay positive. Otherwise, you risk falling into a downward spiral, which will only make things worse.
So, how can you get past your job search struggles?
Here are some tips for staying motivated during a frustrating job search:
1. Find Things You Can Get Excited About
What gets you excited? Think about your hobbies and interests. What do you do for fun in your life? Make sure you dedicate at least one day a week to doing what you love. This will help you get your mind off of the negative and focus on the things you enjoy.
Looking for a job shouldn't take up all of your time. By customizing your resume for each position you apply for and writing disruptive cover letters, you won't need to spend hours a day sending your job applications to a dozen different employers. Two or three will do.
For a strategic job search, quality is always better than quantity. It also means you'll stay motivated, won't get burnt out, and still have time to do the things you love to do. Balance is key!
2. Surround Yourself With People Who Inspire You
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When you're feeling down in the dumps, it's important to surround yourself with positivity. Make an effort to meet up with positive influences in your life—your family, friends, significant other, and mentors. These people will help you stay on track.
Also, surround yourself with your "virtual mentors," people who inspire you from afar. Whether they're celebrities, successful business people, or authors, keep them "nearby." Read their books or showcase their inspirational quotes. A little inspiration can go a long way.
3. Help Others
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Helping makes us feel good! If you're feeling bad about yourself, see how you can help someone else. Volunteer. Pay it forward. Give back somehow. This will recharge you and get you in a good mood.
Another way to help others is to provide value to your professional network, whether on LinkedIn or in person. Share articles, videos, or podcasts you find inspirational, informative, and insightful. Offer to help your connections in any way you can. Chances are, they will be more than happy to return the favor, and may refer you to an open position at their company.
Never help anyone with the expectation of receiving something in return, though! If helping others keeps you motivated and makes you feel grateful for what you do have, don't stop doing it while looking for a job.
4. Get Some Exercise
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You've got to expel that negative energy! Make sure you take time to exercise daily. Take a walk. Go for a run. Do yoga. Lift weights. Just get GOING! Exercising equal endorphins and endorphins make you happy.
Not having structure can make your life seem unstable. Create a plan for your week on Sunday nights. Have a schedule and stick to it. If you like to-do lists, write one of those too.
You'll feel accomplished at the end of the week when you look back and see everything you got done while making time for yourself and prioritizing your career as well as your physical and mental well-being.
Staying motivated during a frustrating job search isn't easy. We hope these tips will help you find the motivation to not only land your next job but also improve your career.
When everything feels overwhelming, just remember to work it daily! Small, consistent actions can make a big difference. Good luck out there.