When you’re unemployed, one of your biggest fears is being judged by others. When it comes to dating, that fear can be amplified. Related: 5 Things You Should Be Doing If You’re Unemployed The number one question asked when meeting someone new is “What do you do for a living?” For many people who are out of work, that simple question can feel like a kick to the stomach. Don’t let unemployment shake your confidence. Here are a few tips for handling the awkward “I’m actually unemployed” talk so you can keep dating while you're unemployed:
1. Discover What You’re Passionate AboutBeing single during a career transition can be an exciting experience, according to Adam LoDolce, a Boston-based dating coach for both men and women. “Dating is the perfect time to redefine yourself,” he said. According to LoDolce, it’s extremely important to discover what you’re really passionate about during this transitional period. “We put so much emphasis on having a good job,” said LoDolce. “You need to realize that, even if you have a good job, it’s not automatically going to get you the girl or the guy.” Incorporating passion and excitement into your conversation is key during a career transition. By changing your perspective, you can control how people view your situation.
2. Avoid Conversation KillersThere are three common questions that come up when you’re getting to know someone new. They are:
- What do you do for a living?
- How old are you?
- Where are you from?
- What’s your dream job?
- What are your hobbies?
- What are some places you’d like to visit?